Finally breaking free from anxiety, overwhelming sadness and self-sabotage is not only possible, but inevitable... once you have the guidance you need to Reset, Re-adjust and Re-focus…
...So you can finally get a clean Restart.
On the outside it may just look like a few bad habits:
Feeling anxious, triggered, or not yourself
Getting angry or irritable over silly things
Constantly feeling “down”
Feeling like you’re “losing control” of your emotions
Using food, alcohol, or substances as a comfort mechanism
Avoiding certain people because you’re afraid they’ll trigger trauma or an irrational response
Avoiding social gatherings or events that cause undue stress
The #memyselfandi Program was designed specifically for people who need step-by-step guidance to help break through life-long destructive thinking...
...identify the blindspots that are impacting their behaviour...
....recalibrate their mindset...
...and finally experience change that lasts.
Love, love, love listening to your podcast. I spent sometime this weekend listening to your episodes on Boundaries and Ways to say NO!
- AD, Western Australia
The day I heard my younger brother died, something deep inside me died right along with him…
...and the truth is, it took years before I was able to recover that missing piece of myself again.
My mum never really recovered from that… but I was young.
I didn’t see it with compassion.
I was completely destroyed.
So not only did I lose my brother and myself, but I somehow lost my mum along the way too.
For so long I thought everyone else was the problem.
Little did I know that the changes taking place inside me would:
Alienate me from my mum, my siblings, and my family
Disrupt my ability to sleep, think clearly, and perform day-to-day tasks
Erode my overall excitement for life…to the point where every day felt numb to me
I was stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage for years.
But when my marriage finally came to a crashing end years later…well…everything changed.
The pain was so devastating that it broke its way through the cold numb in my soul that I’d been nurturing for so long...
I’d come to my breaking point and was desperate to understand what was going on…
Looking back now I can see I had so many “blindspots” in my life that I needed to acknowledge and work through ONCE and FOR ALL …
...or nothing was ever going to change.
Trauma had created a wound in me that I didn’t know how to fix.
I’d formed habits and behaviour during this time that subconsciously became my “coping mechanisms”...
...what I didn't realise is it was these very same habits that were destroying the relationships around me
And the worst part was, no matter what anyone around me said, I couldn’t hear them.
When I decided to seek help, I was skeptical.
I didn’t want to spend years focusing on the past and having to analyse every emotion (I’d already spent too much time living there as it was).
I knew I didn’t want fluffy therapy...I wanted solutions.
It took me years before I finally found a solution...and no, it wasn't a traditional method offered by the system.
It was a four-module framework that I found after years of searching that’s not only helped me, but hundreds of my clients as well.
And it can help you too...if you let it.
You see, by working through this framework, I finally shifted out of living under the shadow of trauma.
With this tried and tested approach, you too can:
Recognise the underlying root cause of what’s tearing you apart inside and causing you to destroy your relationships with others
Recalibrate your thinking patterns and defense mechanisms that have developed over years...so you can finally enjoy life and respond to situations in a healthy way
Restore trust and respect in your marriage and family
Develop a closer, deeper relationship with your kids
Feel calm and ‘at peace’ with yourself and who you’re becoming
Finally master the voice inside your head that’s always accusing you of the things you’ve done in your past
Unless you identify your blindspots and take the time to recalibrate your thinking, it’s impossible to heal.
But as you can see, breaking free from life-long destructive behaviour is possible… and I’m living proof.
The 6-month #memyselfandi program is for anyone who desperately needs to break free from anxiety, stop self-sabotage, and regain control over their lives.
Here’s the thing:
By the time most of us realise we need help, these destructive habits and behaviors have already been embedded deep into our subconscious and need to be carefully stripped away one layer at a time.
It kind of reminds me of that classic scene in Shrek where Ogre’s talking to Donkey about just how complicated ogres are:
Shrek: Ogres are like onions.
Donkey: They stink?
Donkey Oh, they make you cry?
Shrek: No! Layers! Onions have layers, ogres have layers. You get it? We both have layers.
You see, 90% of the people who come to me thinking there’s something seriously wrong with them actually just need personalised guidance on how to regain stability, joy, and satisfaction in life.
They ultimately need to have someone who’s willing to guide them through the process of finding what’s triggering their responses and helping them recalibrate their thinking in a way that will result in change.
How traditional counselling works against you
Here’s the thing: I know that in the moment my clients come to me they’ve composed themselves.
Any strategy, idea or piece of advice I suggest will be warmly welcomed…
But that’s not the moment that counts.
It’s the time in-between visits. It’s the heat-of-the-moment situations where something that someone else says or does triggers a negative reaction within you.
Those are the moments where my clients need me and why having weekly check-ins included in the program is literally one of the biggest success factors of the 6-month Behavioural Change program.
Vee is incredible! Soo knowledgeable and aware of what I am truly saying. She has helped me immensely and I am grateful to have found her.
- PS, Western Australia
Removing “toxic” people from your life isn’t the answer… it only leaves people lonely, victimised and isolated.
This is where I’ll lose some of you.
And that’s ok.
Because to be completely frank with you… there’s a lot of damaging counselling around that’s there to...
Keep people trapped in the lies and negative self-talk of “why me”
And make you feel like you’ll need to be in therapy for the rest of your life...
… 20 sessions later, the client still blames her dad for the breakdown of her marriage, for why she hates her boss, can’t hold a job and still devalues her own worth...
...Meanwhile the system continues to profit from her seemingly unresolvable “daddy issues.”
My job isn’t to tell you that you’re the victim of your past or the poor behaviour of others.
Yes, we will identify what’s impacted you over time, BUT…
I’m not going to let you sit there forever trapped in your past experiences.
My job is to help you truly break free.
Get six months of close support with 24 weeks of learning, each week building on the last:
Yes, this will fast track results. But don't confuse the fast track with an easy track.
Because it's not.
During our time together, you may start to see your thoughts and behaviour change quickly… however I need you to understand that it may not always feel easy.
It’s going to be hard at times.
But it will be so worth it!
Here’s what you’ll get:
Here’s a closer look at what we’ll cover in each module:
We’ll dig deep into:
Getting to know YOU using personality testing. This is about identifying your strengths so we know what superpowers for change are already residing within you
Gaining clarity, control, competence, and confidence and...why each area is imperative for success in overcoming anxiety and self-sabotage
Your 12-month goals and expectations from the program
The neurological pathways to resilience that will set you up with healthy and positive thinking patterns
How to steer your focus in a way that allows you to address the past and use it to build a positive future
A thoughts appraisal. You already know the issues that arise when we live with blind spots. Let’s dig a little deeper together and weed out the thoughts and patterns that have been limiting you from reaching success
The spheres of life and identifying your circles of control – finally understand the areas you can make a difference in and how to let go of the spheres that aren’t your responsibility to change
The worry factor – learn strategies to combat the one defence-mechanism that is often to blame for relapse into bad habits and self-sabotage
I’m going to teach you how to access a memory without reliving the pain. From here, you’re finally ready to get “unstuck” from the past.
In this module we’ll be going one step deeper into:
I was stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage for years.
Wielding your “attention stick” like a wand – this will be about training you in how to direct your attention and undergo a thoughts appraisal...
...so you’re able to analyse certain outcomes of situations in your life without lingering on the negative for too long.
Expanding on your circle of control, this time addressing the “worry” factor and how to overcome the challenges in your mind that it will try to present.
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses…and all the other unhelpful thinking patterns and distortions that slow progress in understanding the control you have over your thoughts and behaviours.
You think you’re avoiding the thorn in your life by building defences around it and avoiding the things that remind you of it. But now that becomes an exact reflection of the thorn itself as it dictates everything.
Read that again.
Here we’re confronting the past and identifying where you’re stuck by:
Undertaking a CRAP analysis. Yeah, you read that right. We’re going to identify the roots of any conflicts, rage, anxiety or problems that you’re experiencing
Learning the Bruise Theory… THIS IS LIFE CHANGING. Learn how to access a memory without reliving the pain!
Taking a moment to check: are you avoiding certain people, places or activities? This indicates that pain is running certain areas of your life, and it’s time to take back the reins. This is about identifying the THORNS, not avoiding them
Recognising resistance (the inner critic theory) – here we’ll find what’s stopping you internally rather than what you think stops you from the outside (HINT: It's not your mom or your dad or your car that doesn't start. It's none of that. It's what's inside that’s stopping you from being where you’d like your future self to be - so it’s time to get out of your own way)
Meeting your roommate: you know that inner critic that seems to show up uninvited? Let’s finally learn how to deal with our emotionally reactive, often irrational friend.
Building your own story: The Story of Me. I’m going to spend some dedicated time looking over your story. I’ve helped so many people using this method as it often helps me connect some dots that you may not be seeing
Recognising your defense mechanisms and ensuring they’re working in your favour and not automatically taking control where unnecessary
Fighting back the fear - discover what’s holding you back and what to do when it tries to block the pathway to change
Learning the Games Theory – understand cause and effect in a way that you can spin to your advantage as you recalibrate your mindset and actions
Undergoing some healing and reframing work – we'll address any deeply rooted pains of childhood and any areas of unforgiveness that are holding you captive
Discovering the silver linings in every situation… right now you may think that’s impossible. Trust me… after completing module 2 you’ll shock yourself at what you find.
Engaging in Hot Seat opportunities you need to accelerate your personal growth
Doubting your competence is one thing. But actually lacking it is another. Here, we’ll finally equip you with what you need to master those nagging, criticising thoughts and finally re-start in life.
We’ll also be digging deep into teaching on...
Optimism VS pessimism. The answer to “Is pessimism always negative?” How you can continue to control which lens you view your circumstance… you’re going to become a master of your perspective here… no more irrational reactions, each day from here on will become easier and easier to separate yourself from negative attitudes and take ground where you previously struggled to separate yourself from emotion-led behaviour.
Back to the future – solidifying positive future beliefs and reducing unhelpful ones.
Smoothing off the wheels – here we will be re-visiting your ‘wheel of life’, checking in to see your progress, establishing new priorities and goals for the next six months, 1 year and even 5 years.
Understanding positive psychology and how to maintain your transformation and continue to step toward the “future you” that you desire
The key ingredients to well-being and a special lesson on where most people get this wrong
A series of deep dives into areas like beliefs, coping mechanisms, resilience and your values. In these sessions I’ll be putting you in the hot seat...You’ll be provided with powerful, targeted and individual support where we leave no room for overlooked skeletons in the closet
A gratitude perspective. Months from now you’ll look back and realise your current success hinges on the things that shifted when you attended this session in particular. This is the REAL kickstarter for finally breaking free from anxiety, depression and a destructive mindset
Access to a range of specific specialists who can help you work through certain areas like mindset, sex, finances, etc. These sessions will all be covered by your membership over the time of that module.
Gaining confidence is only possible when you’ve increased your competence. This module is about helping you maintain the ground you’ve taken in the weeks and months after our time together has come to an end.
Adapting to a situation and looking at it differently is possible, no matter how long you’ve been trapped in the cycle. In fact it’s my goal for you by the time you leave… and I don’t set unrealistic goals.
Too many people disempower themselves in a situation. They’ve had years of unchallenged lies in their heads.
Want to know why I’m confident that this shift is possible?
Because I know that after working through these modules with me, you will have put on a different set of lenses… that in itself is enough to kickstart change.
I’m Vee Vinci
I’m a trained relationship and family therapist.
I help people rebuild healthy minds and lives by identifying the core behaviours that need to be addressed in order for real, lasting change to occur.
By helping my clients uncover the blind spots that are keeping them trapped in bad habits, addiction, self-sabotage and anxiety, I’ve walked them through step-by-step on how to regain control and break out of the ‘victim mentality’ that tells them there is no escape from past trauma.
Having counselled hundreds of individuals and couples through to finally living with joyful, healthy mindsets I take a ‘tackle the blind spots’ approach to make sure changes implemented accomplish the long-term results we all want to see in our lives.
Now the ball’s in your court...
In six months’ time, you’ll either look back at this moment and realise it was the life-changing decision that finally helped you gain back the life and control you once felt slipping through your fingers.
You will finally start to experience what it is to come home to a happy household.
To look forward to spending time with those you love and genuinely feel calm, at peace and in control of how you handle unexpected situations or life circumstances.
You will ultimately be supported to make the changes you need to start living the life you thought impossible.
Six months from now you’ll still be stuck in the same cycle of self-sabotage. Battling the same emotions of fear and anxiety, having toxic fights with your spouse… and totally regretting not doing something about it.